These adults describe how conflict and crowded public places trigger intense anxiety, making it feel as if people are swarming towards them, though they stress it is not others’ fault and they no longer apologise for their mental health.

They say technology has reduced communication, listening, eye contact and interaction, and has also created fear.

They live with good and bad days and also have PTSD from spending two years in a war zone in Sri Lanka during a previous, abusive marriage, eventually being extracted by the embassy.

They feel depressed about being pushed towards online services as banks close, fearing scams and struggling with computers, self-scan checkouts and cash machines, though they are proud of gradually learning to text and use an indoor ATM.

They feel people are too busy to teach them.